Living the family life

  Do you know what sucks about being a nice person? You're usually the one to get stepped on, left out, forgotten about or just straight up ignored. Then you kind of sit back and think to yourself why am I the nice one, why is it so hard for me to be mean to people or for me to put my foot down. Then you kind of wonder should change, should you not change, what parts about you should you change. I'm here to answer that question.   Don't. Don't change. The nice people are what keep the world positive. In a world full of people who constantly doing just for themselves and things that only benefit themselves, its people like us nice people who have to stand up for the people who don't have voices for themselves. We might get stepped on and left out at times but we are also the people that have the biggest heart for others. We were the ones that are able to have sympathy for those who are in difficult situations. We are able to sit down with them and love them them and...

Okay so let's face facts. Life in your twenties suck. You and your friends are no longer on the same track. Some of your friends are married, some are engaged, some are in college, some  have family of their own, and some are already in their careers. But the fact to the matter is in your twenties, we feel like we have a deadline. We have to be graduated by this time or that we have to have a family by this time and that's the part that sucks.   We sit back and we compare ourselves to where our friends are and where we are and why our lives might not seem to be a successful as others. We feel like we're failing in some areas where we're seeing other people thrive. If you really think hard enough about it I can almost guarantee you that someone else is looking at you and thinking the same thing. They might be thinking how they wish they had a family already or how they wish the they had their degree already or how they wish that they were living their life a different w...

   Leah and Railee had dumped out their toy boxes. My husband told them if they cleaned it up, they could play with the new box. We had just bought a dehumidifier for our home and we let the kids play with the boxes we don't need. As they rushed to clean up Railee kept looking at the box. Leah was talking about what they could turn the box into.   I thought nothing of it until later that evening after the kids went to bed about how happy they were over a box. A BOX. They have a ridiculous amount of toys and they want to play with the box so much that they cleaned up all the toys to do so.   The more I thought on this, the more I applied it to real life. We overlook the little things, we overlook what they could be. They are seen as "just a box" and not a car or airplane or a tunnel. People get so caught up life and what it is and not what it can be. "It is what it is" needs to be put to rest. That saying needs to stopped being used. That's a way of accepti...

   You often hear about the struggles with newborns. Sleepless nights, feedings every few hours, the sleep regression and the spit up. Plus, colic is farthest from fun. However, toddler years are much more difficult than the baby phase.    With toddlers, one finds themselves trying to figure out the tantrums. My 2yo will fuss because the wagon is empty even though she was the one who emptied it. My 3yo will, at times, get irritable because her hair isn't curly when she first wakes up because she loves her curls.  Yesterday, my 2yo was irritated because she couldn't play in the dryer. Toddler tantrums can often be a nightmare, especially in public.   Imagine this, you're in the store and your toddler has a meltdown in the middle of the grocery store because she can't eat the tomatoes you just grabbed. You are now dealing with a screaming toddler while you're trying to get groceries and everyone is glaring at you. You are now the one people are whispering ...

   They say we are only given one life so we need to give it our best shot. As parents, we try to give our children the best life we possibly can even though that's not always the easiest thing to do. There are moments where we sit back and question "Are we doing the right thing", "Is this the right decision for my family", "What could I do differently to make their life better", "Are we teaching them right", "what are they going to be like when they grew up?" All these questions parents ask themselves everyday trying to do the best for their family. There many times where I sit back and wonder if I'm doing right by my children.   There's little moments in life where you know that your children are going to be ok. Where you look at them and think I'm doing the best I can and that's okay. I find myself looking at my kids all the time praying that I can give them the life that they deserve and I pray that they will a...

  There are 2 important words that I have come to value in these years of motherhood. Time and peace. You cannot have one without the other. They create a balance.   Time. It seems to run our lives doesn't it? It seems to be what we live by but we seem to become busy and forget ourselves. We forget to take care of us. My husband makes sure I do something for me every few months (minimum) like going to get my hair done or going shopping. He makes sure I make time for myself because I forget to. Time to do for yourself creates peace.   Peace. It is defined as freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility. Peace is those moments of quiet after the babies go down. It's the few minutes of relaxing after a long day. It's what makes a person feels refreshed and renewed. You can't create peace if you don't make time.   Time and peace. You need to take the time for yourself. Go get your hair done, go buy yourself that new pair of shoes, and don't feel guilty becaus...

As a mom we have had those days where it's one thing after another. When one child isn't screaming or asking for something, the other is. Well...that's been my story these past few days.  There was a small moment today that I realized something.   I had brought the kids out for an hour to draw on the front porch and play in the yard. Hoping that maybe for just a few minutes everything would be okay and the day would get easier. Leah was playing in the yard, Railee was drawing pictures in the dirt and Hannah was sitting here on the porch asking me questions. Leah came up to me all excited with a pecan in her hand. "Mommy I found one! I found you one! Here mommy! Pinecone! I did it!" My 3 year old was so excited about this little surprise that she had found on the ground. She brought it to me as  "a present for mommy" as she called it. She was smiling from ear to ear. Then Railee called me over to see a little sandcastle she had made. They were both so i...

   At 22 years old I am married with an 8 year old bonus daughter, 3 year old and 2 year old daughters and a 9 month old son. My husband and I have been married since July of 2015 and our life has been an adventure since.    We have always wanted a big family and we're blessed to have 4 wonderful children. All 4 of them are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. -Hannah (age 8) is our lover of cats and pink. She is both an extrovert and introvert, it just depends on her attitude that day. Once one gets to know her she is super bubbly and full of questions! She loves to learn new things and learn about the world around her. Plus she definitely has a talent for art. -Leah (age 3) is our musician. She adores all things music. She is also the one that looks after her sisters and brother. She enjoys playing with her siblings most. She is always wanting to learn and do with things with you. -Railee (age 2) is our foodie. She loves to eat. She wants to be in the kitchen while the meals...