Difficult 20's

Okay so let's face facts. Life in your twenties suck. You and your friends are no longer on the same track. Some of your friends are married, some are engaged, some are in college, some  have family of their own, and some are already in their careers. But the fact to the matter is in your twenties, we feel like we have a deadline. We have to be graduated by this time or that we have to have a family by this time and that's the part that sucks.
  We sit back and we compare ourselves to where our friends are and where we are and why our lives might not seem to be a successful as others. We feel like we're failing in some areas where we're seeing other people thrive. If you really think hard enough about it I can almost guarantee you that someone else is looking at you and thinking the same thing. They might be thinking how they wish they had a family already or how they wish the they had their degree already or how they wish that they were living their life a different way than what they really are. Here's the truth, that person fighting for their degree is working there tail off to get it. That person that has a family, they're still struggling with their kids every day. That person who is already in their career, they might feel like they're missing out on enjoying their twenties.
  I talk to many people about this and everyone that I have talked to his said the same thing. "I would not go back to my twenties even if I could." They tell me that the twenties are the hardest time in life. Reason why is simple, we feel like we should have our lives all put together by this point but we don't and that's okay. No ones expecting us to have a whole life together. If they are, then ask them about their life story, I can bet you that they didn't their life together by the time they were in their 20's. Even my husband (29yo), who sees me struggle with this at times, reassures me ALL THE TIME that it's okay not to have life put together right now and that we will figure it out together. My sister in law is 34 and her husband is 36. They have a 15yo boy, 14yo boy, and 6yo boy. She was also young like I was when she started to have kids. Now that their kids are older they are able to go off and enjoy life more. They are able to go and do with their friends more than what they could in their 20's. The difference now is there more settled and established in life then they were in their twenties.
   The problem with us in our twenties is that we live like there's a deadline to be graduated, to have a family, to go out enjoy the world the reality there's not. We have to stop comparing our lives to our friends because no 2 people are the same. Our twenties is when we live life and learn a lot of lessons. However, the biggest lesson we have yet to understand that there is no deadlines and that we need to stop comparing ourselves to others. Maybe that's why we feel like we have a deadline is because we compare ourselves to others who are on a completely different walk of life than we are.

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