The one my soul loves

They say to marry someone like you, one you have much in common with, one whom likes some of the things you do. However, I've learned in life that in many cases opposites not only attract but balance each other out. My husband does just that. He and I grew up completely different. He did anything he wanted and caused all types of trouble, I grew up the good band kid that made good grades and stayed in school. I guess you could say it was obvious I was the first born in my family and he was the baby in his.
  I am a typical mom. I worry A LOT, I discipline, I make sure they're fed, etc. My husband however, is the ball of fun, get into trouble with, "what irritating thing can I teach you now to drive mommy nuts later" type dad. To be completely honest, it might drive me INSANE but I am grateful for that.
  When our 2yo fractured above her nose, it was daddy who took her to the ER. Where mommy would be a nervous mess, daddy made sure that she stayed awake like she needed to but also was happy in the process. When our 8yo got several splinters at once, it was fun daddy to the rescue while I cleaned them out. When our 3yo got sick at my in laws, it was daddy to the rescue to clean her up and make her smile.
  He is also Mr fix it or build it. He is always working on something from personal projects to new hobbies. About a year and a half ago he hand build a 2 person canoe in our living room. We live in a small home so that canoe was a pain in the house. His hobbies have gone from helicopters to cars to boats to even a racing mower. All things he has been able to work on and or build himself. He tells me all the time that he doesn't know everything but he knows enough about a lot to get him through and he isn't kidding. I haven't known much that he couldn't do.
  My husband isn't given enough credit. He deserves recognition. If it weren't for him, I couldn't do this parent thing alone. He is the complete opposite of me. He will be 30 next year where as I will only be 23. He has been through so much and he is teaching me a lot. He makes sure that I know I am never alone. He balances me out. Where I don't understand things, he does. It works beautifully like harmony to a melody. Love isn't perfect, but the love we have for each other makes up for all the little imperfections.

*Photo credit to my best friend Angela Manning for this gorgeous photo. One of my most cherished photos. https://lalamanning-photography.myportfolio.com/work *

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