To the mom

  Stop what you're doing for a moment. Breathe. Don't think about anything. Take a deep breath. Tune out the world for just a moment. Do you feel the rise and fall as you breathe? Take a deep breath. Just breathe.
  To the mom hiding in a room alone trying to not break down in front of your babies. You will make it. Your hard work isn't for nothing. It's OK to break down. You need it. You're not struggling alone, I promise. Being a mom is HARD. It is by far one of the most difficult jobs in the world. Do not feel guilty because you needed a moment to break down or breathe. Those babies in there depend on you and you need this time so you can regroup. You're doing the best you can and those babies love you. You're their world. You need to care for you so you can care for them. You've got this.
  To the mom who is hiding to sneak a snack. Eat. You're constantly making sure those babies are fed and well nourished. How many meals have you skipped? Quite a few I'm sure. You focus on your children and everything else going on in life that sometimes meals are skipped. Eat. They need you to have your strength. You need to be able to keep up with them and you can't do that without eating. Don't feel guilty for trying to take care of yourself.
   To the mom who's children are all in school and you're trying to keep up with them. You've got this. The endless car rider line or consistent homework that makes NO sense, you've got this. Patience with them. Homework isn't easy for them either. They would rather be spending family time with you. That car rider line? Yeah. HUGE PAIN. Be patient. We're all mom's just trying to get our kids. Pick them up and go. Don't ask how school was while still sitting there. If you have all your kids please move on. Your children are in school. You're making it. Enjoy these years because they'll be ending before you know it. It might not be easy with the football games, baseball games, basketball games, cheer events, band events, ROTC, etc. Soon these years will end and right now you might feel overwhelmed but it doesn't last long. Hang in there.
   To the mom with empty nest. You did it. You brought your children up and prepped them for life. You might not be excited about it right now but now you get to enjoy your children as adults. They'll grow to understand you more. Maybe you'll have grand babies to spoil but till then, be patient. Support them. You made it through the ups and downs. Yes there will still be ups and downs but you made it through the 18+ years. Take a breath and enjoy your children being grown.
  To all moms, we've got this. Life is far from easy as a mother. We go through it all. Take that break, eat that cookie, enjoy the endless practices, enjoy the quiet nest. You deserve those stolen moments to yourself. You are making it through one moment at a time. Don't give up on yourself. You're showing your children to be strong. That's what we mothers do. You've got this. Just remember, life goes by to fast and sometimes you need to just stop and breathe.

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